Hashtag Everyday Sexism. Hashtag microaggressions

[nanila]

It’s such a pleasure* to have regular reminders that when you become a lecturer, people don’t automatically stop being horribly sexist at you. 

Yesterday, I was in my department’s Education Support Office [ESO], chatting to one of the ESO officers while he located the exam paperwork I needed so I could go off and spend the morning marking them.

As we chatted, someone walked in. I didn’t notice them and I don’t think the ESO officer did either. We were at the back of the office, well behind the reception desk. 

We noticed them when this person started shouting at us in the middle of our conversation, as I was signing out the exam scripts. Well, they shouted at me. “Excuse me, Miss, can you come over here,” they snapped. I turned and stared at them, appalled, and didn’t say anything. The ESO officer put on his most professional poker face and said firmly, “I’ll be with you in a moment.”

Was this person put off by that? Spoiler alert: They were not. “I am a new research associate in [professor’s name]’s group. I am looking for [professional services person]. I need to meet them now.” They stared at me. I still didn’t say anything.

The ESO officer replied, “Just wait there. I’ll be with you when we’re finished.”

We turned our backs on the person, who turned very reluctantly away and went out of the office to wait outside. When I left, I sailed past them with my arms full of exam scripts and did not look at them as I went downstairs to my office.

To the person: Do not assume that everyone standing in a professional services office is there to serve you on command. Especially not the women. 

To colleagues who do not check whether the people they are hiring are sexist pricks: I don’t care how great they may be as researchers. Please stop hiring sexist pricks.

To the ESO officer: You are a gem. Thank you for your support.

* please note heavy sarcasm

Comments

[atlantisburning]

I feel like no matter what a woman does, it's never enough to be treated as an equal (or a superior in some cases of job hierarchy) for some folks. I know you're not American, so the whole stupid kerfuffle with our First Lady, Dr. Jill Biden, after the Wall Street Journal posted an op-ed about how she needs to drop her "Doctor" title because she's not a medical doctor. And then the author went on to call her kiddo. Like how fragile must that man be to not give someone who did the hard work and earned the degree and title the respect they deserve?

Why do we STILL live in a society that tries to tear each other down?

I'm sorry you're still dealing with it. It's not fair, and I hate to think that we'll never see the end of it in our lifetimes. Which is so very sad.

[nanila]

I remember reading the Dr Biden story. It made me do one of those deeply exasperated sighs. I probably do about three a month.