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2025-03-16 09:31 pm

The Friday Five on a Sunday

  1. How far back can you trace your family tree?
    That depends on which side of the family (maternal or paternal) we’re talking about. I have distant relatives who have done a lot of work tracing back the ancestry of various people from my grandparents’ generation to the late 1700s / early 1800s. However, there are also substantial gaps, particularly on the paternal side. I couldn’t tell you the names of my great-grandparents on that side.

  2. What is the most interesting (or strange) thing you've heard about one of your relatives?
    I knew that one of my great-grandparents had been a chemist at Eastman Kodak, but until recently I hadn’t gone and looked up the various patents he filed in the mid-20th century.

  3. How do you feel about legacy names like John Henry Smith IV or naming children after other relatives?
    I think whatever other people choose to do about naming their children is their business, although if you name your child something like “SanDeE*” I may have to fight the urge to judge you for overcomplicating the administrative burden they’ll endure for the rest of their lives.

  4. Would you consider yourself and/or your family to be traditional?
    Not really. I think the absence of religion in our lives probably affects this. We do like traditions that involve food, though, like Pancake Day (Shrove Tuesday) and Easter.

  5. What is one tradition you have passed on to your children and/or plan to pass on to them?
    I have passed on the following to them:
    • It is OK to put shoyu (soy sauce) on anything.
    • Rather than have the argument over pumpkin pie v pecan pie for Thanksgiving dinner, it is best to make both. Also, it is OK to celebrate Thanksgiving at the weekend, since it is not a thing in the UK.
    • There is no such thing as “quickly” popping into the bookshop. Or the library.

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2025-01-13 10:41 pm

The Friday Five on a Monday

  1. If you could go back and relive one moment or day from your life, without changing anything, what would you re-experience?


  2. I’m probably supposed to say something about kids here, but if I’m being honest it would be the day Sputnik and Telstar arrived in our lives as tiny kittens. It was such a joyous afternoon (and also I wasn't in pain and exhausted).

  3. If you could witness a moment in history, again without changing anything, what would you want to see?


  4. Just a random day in the time when there were dinosaurs and giant insects. I'd want to be in a protective bubble though, so I'd be safe whilst wandering around gawping at stuff.

  5. f you could talk to a younger version of yourself, what age would you visit and what message would you give?


  6. I'd visit me while my maternal grandparents were alive and I lived with them, and tell me to write in my diary every day. I have strong individual memories of that period in my life but Older!Me wishes I had a more complete record.

  7. If you could choose one moment that would be guaranteed to happen in your future, what would it be and when would it happen?


  8. Becoming a full professor. I’d be happy if it happened any time now, although obviously I have to have enough evidence to make it plausible and then write my promotion case. I won't be too happy if it takes more than five years, though.

  9. Pretend you left a time capsule for yourself 5, 10, 15, 20 or more years ago. You just opened it. What three things from your past are you now holding and what age were you when you buried them?


  10. As a child I'm likely to have buried a pretty shell or a shark's tooth that I found on the beach. As a young adult, probably a graduation photo. As a middle-aged adult, something both my kids wore, like the NASA astronaut costume I brought Humuhumu from the Smithsonian when she was about three.
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2025-01-01 09:21 pm

1SE for December 2024



Bookended by new whiskies. Plenty of cats, food, and family in between.

Happy New Year!
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2024-08-23 10:28 pm

A belated Friday Five

1. Are you and your birth family close?

Yes (but also, it’s complicated).

2. How far away do you live from your various family members?

At least a few thousand miles from nearly all of my blood relatives. Much closer to my out-laws.

3. When was the last time you visited with relatives?

Only about a month ago, but it already feels like ages. :(

4. Do your relatives travel to visit you?

Hahahaha no. My parents are in their eighties and have been to the UK exactly twice since I moved here. My other family don’t have passports or don’t have enough money to travel to the UK or both.

This has, weirdly, become harder on me emotionally the longer I’ve lived here. The twentieth anniversary of me moving to the UK passed quietly a couple of weeks back: ironically, whilst I was in the USA, sitting on the beach in Los Angeles.

5. How do you stay in touch with family: phone calls, email, snail mail, texts, other?

All of the above, although snail mail has dropped off in the past four or five years, since I have most relatives either on WhatsApp or Messenger so that I can send them photos easily.
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2022-08-28 11:33 am

Meniscus

 It's now been over a month since I last posted on Dreamwidth,  longer on LiveJournal since cross posting stopped being automatic. 

I debated over our recent holiday whether to simply continue not posting or to make some kind of formal statement about how I plan to use this journal in future. Personally I prefer it when people don't just disappear. I know that 99% of the time they've just got bored or busy or distracted by a different platform and don't find the journal rewarding enough to continue, and nothing terrible has happened to them. But it's nice to have the reassurance that this is the case, rather than that they've been hit by a bus or something. 


So I guess this is me obliquely sidling up to the realisation that despite 21 years of journalling (as of this July), I have neither the time nor the inclination to keep up my commitment to writing and interacting here as intensively as I once did. I can see the signs of this in my recent posting patterns: more short entries, far fewer public posts, failure to post photos because it's just too much effort to muster after a 15 hour day, failure to reply to comments or to other people's posts. 


There are external factors too. I got promoted at work. I have a huge workload now that I have a senior administrative role in my department, plus teaching and grant management. I'm co-supervising my first PhD student. The children will be going to different schools in a week's time, effectively doubling our life admin complications. Because of this we've had to acquire a second car after 10 years of getting away with having only one. 


I'm sure no one apart from me is surprised, but I hope I'm not the only one who's sad about this. I loved being (what felt to me like) a stalwart part of this community. It's painful to have to let it go. I will post now and again but I won't be reading regularly so if this is important to you and you need to say goodbye because of it, please do. On the other hand, if you're okay with sporadic updates and patchy, enthusiastic interaction then please stay. I'm always happy to pick up with friends and acquaintances after long silences.


I'll keep my Wed-Sat shifts on the daily "Just One Thing" achievement posts for Awesomeers.dreamwidth.org. Do join there if you want a low key way of recording stuff you've done and getting a little cheer for it. That's how I use it.


If you'd like to connect elsewhere, I'm on the following, but don't post much: Instagram (magnetometrist) and Twitter (nanila). I'm most active on and 150+ days into a Duolingo streak so happy to be added there as well: nanila2, the one with a Neko Atsume cat as my userpic.


TL;DR version: Nanila angsts about not journalling regularly, isn't leaving completely, loves you all, stay or go as you like, please add on Duolingo. ❤️

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2022-02-25 07:23 pm

Mortimer Forest, Shropshire, UK - Vinnalls Loop

We went for a walk in Mortimer Forest and followed the green arrows for Vinnalls Loop, which was allegedly just under five kilometres, but due to dubious signage in a few places, ended up being more like six. It’s not the longest walk we’ve ever done with the children, but it was certainly the steepest, and in some places, the soggiest. Keiki lost his wellies twice. The second time was the last straw as he already had wet socks, and he ended up on his daddy’s shoulders, where he cheered up immediately.

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Small boy, big trees.

There was evidence of storm damage everywhere, and though the forestry commission had obviously been through clearing the paths when they could, they hadn’t been able to keep up.

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Under or over?

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Moody skies.

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Spectacular views.

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2022-02-21 09:41 pm

Stokesay Castle and church

We ventured out in the much improved weather for another castle visit, this time by car since we judged it a bit too far for small legs, especially small legs that had been on a 10.5 km hike the previous day.

The bright yellow gatehouse catches the eye before Stokesay Castle does, but since you can’t go inside except for one small downstairs room, you have to content yourself with admiring it from several external angles.

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”Gatehouse from the tower and the moat. )
The castle isn’t very prepossessing from the outsides, but the inside is fantastic and offers spectacular views over the surrounding countryside through an endlessly varied set of windows.

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Castle. )
The neighbouring St John the Baptist church was a small gem as well. A sturdy Norman tower looks like it can and has weathered all manner of ill winds. We went in as the afternoon light was streaming through the stained glass windows.

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Church interior. )
After that it was time for coffee, juice, and some hefty slices of homemade cakes at the tearoom before heading home.

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Goodbye, snowdrops.

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2022-01-29 04:51 pm
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My little buddy

A photo of Cheeky sitting on the back of my neck is under the cut.


My little buddy )

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2022-01-18 10:42 pm

Whitby Abbey, 2021-12-30

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On the first full day of our trip to Whitby, we made our first pilgrimage to the ruins of the Abbey. Because ELDERGOTHS. (Well, me and sister-out-law, anyway.)

Zillions of photos )

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2021-12-31 04:56 pm
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Last post of 2021

Yesterday was Sister-Out-Law's 50th birthday and we celebrated it at midnight with champagne.

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We're together - SOL, BOL, their two children and all of us - for New Year as well. I'm so happy to be in good company to ring in 2022.

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2021-08-26 06:27 am

Story of Dog (5 months old)

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"Observe! I am elegance and grace personified as I catch this frisbee!"

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"Ooer. You haz...treat?"

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2021-08-25 09:26 am
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Niece, with octopus

Niece

"There's something in your hair, Niece." "I know."

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2021-04-10 09:34 am

Yorkshire Sculpture Park

Last week we went up to the Yorkshire Sculpture Park for an outdoor playdate with the bloke's sister and the cousins. As with every trip to Leeds, we had prepared ourselves for a frigid trudge through the rain and wolfing down sandwiches in whatever poor shelter we could find under some trees. We were pleasantly surprised to have both sunshine and warmth, and ended up going for a 6 mile walk up into the surrounding forest.

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As it was our first lengthy car journey for some months, I decided it was time to introduce Keiki and Humuhumu to Cabin Pressure. We listened to the first two episodes on the way up. They were instant fans. Keiki relates to Caroline, and Humuhumu to Douglas. If this is the model for their future sibling relations, I expect to be very entertained over the next few years.

Keiki: "If anyone is Sir, *I* am Sir!"
Humuhumu, drily: "Pass the tomato sauce, oh Sir of Sirs."

Many photos )

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2021-03-20 03:18 pm

Sheep herding

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A friend, who owns a smallholding a few miles down the road, invited us this morning to help with rounding up some lambs, and stand around in a big pond in our wellies. Who could resist such inducements?

Not us )
If any of the children's actions are puzzling you, just approach the photo with the perspective, "How can I get as filthy as possible in this situation?" and all will become clear.

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2021-01-10 03:21 pm

Croome

[These events took place and this entry was written pre-lockdown 3.0.]

The last time we went to Croome, Humuhumu was a toddler and Keiki slept through the whole thing in his sling. The grounds are stunning - it’s a Capability Brown extravaganza, no expense was spared, not even that of moving an entire village to improve a view - and they loved it. I’m still kicking myself for not bringing the dSLR but comfort myself in the knowledge that we’ll definitely be back.

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More photos )
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2020-12-28 11:11 am

Snow day

I know it's not uncommon for some of you, but it hasn't snowed properly in our part of the UK for three years, so we were a teensy bit excited when we woke up this morning and went for a walk by the canal as soon as it was light and we'd eaten our porridge.

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More snow )
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2020-09-22 04:09 pm
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It birthday! Sun orbited

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Today is my birthday! I celebrated it with lots of meetings. But now I can grab one of my birthday beers (Beartown S'mores) and watch the inaugural episode of this series of Bake Off which is my birthday present from the television programming controllers, hahaha.

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2020-08-27 09:46 pm

Family update

  • Humuhumu can ride a bicycle! Before lockdown we struggled with getting her to even attempt it, and she would spend most of her time shouting at Daddy either to help, or stop helping. Lockdown rules meant she had a long break from it. When we finally did manage to extract her bicycle from the shed post-house renovation, she hopped on it and rode down the road with a jaw-dropping level of nonchalance.

  • Keiki can also ride a bicycle without stabilisers, with only minimal assistance from Daddy. He’s not far off being able to do it on his own, but probably isn’t quite ready to cycle to school just yet.

  • Last weekend they had their first swimming lessons in months. We were quite worried about how this would go. Humuhumu didn’t swim without a float in one hand, but two things were very encouraging: she can now time her breathing with her arm strokes in front crawl, and she stayed entirely off the wall and in a middle lane. Once Keiki started paying attention to his teacher (always his main issue), he also did very well, doing star floats, kicking with a float and simultaneously blowing bubbles without being prompted.

  • Side note: The swim teachers can no longer be in the water with the Stage 1 children, which must be extraordinarily challenging. There were five children in Keiki’s class, and there was a stark difference between the three children who had been doing lessons for months before lockdown (including him) and the two who had joined only a few weeks prior. The former children were able to follow the instructions given verbally and with partial visual demonstration by the teacher from the poolside. The latter were almost completely lost, even when watching the other children do as instructed. It’ll be interesting to see how things develop in the coming weeks. I don’t think this is a sustainable way to teach children who are total beginners.

  • Granddad has been doing almost-daily morning lessons with the children. He sings with them, reads them a story, plays maths games, and drills Humuhumu on her times tables. He started this in person while we were staying in Norfolk during the house renovation (once "bubbles" were allowed) and has kept it up since. It has been tremendously helpful. Go Granddad.

  • Finally, we have been watching The Mandalorian as a family. Keiki, who has become completely obsessed by Lego and building spaceships and tanks and weaponry, was told about Star Wars by an older cousin, and demanded to be allowed to watch it. We duly procured a copy of The Mandalorian, having been told that it was (a) family friendly and (b) good, which cannot be said of all the Star Wars oeuvre. We’ve got through four episodes. It’s not a passive viewing experience by any means. We’re peppered with questions continuously and there are cuddles needed during the scary bits. Still, everyone is enjoying it immensely. With popcorn.